Sunday, May 9, 2010

Emotional Eating

Alright, I'm making myself laugh a little at my melodramatic rock pile. It looks like a picture you'd find in a mental health brochure. But in all seriousness... I hope to look back on my mistakes with humor, understanding, and even gratitude.

For now, I think I’ll have a cupcake. Or five.

There’s no question that the food we put in our body is directly related to our states of mind. When we eat whole foods, we feel better physically and mentally. When we eat crap, well, we feel that too.

But the relationship works in reverse. Sometimes, things happen to us, or we make things happen, that suck. During those difficult times, we seek basic and immediate comforts, like food.

The self-disciplined may push through without so much as a glance towards our liquor cabinets. The weak linger too long on a slippery slope of fudge sauce until we lose our footing and drown in a self-perpetuating pool of chocolate and sadness. And still others find a nice balance of depression-driven indulgence, and have a day or two of Vortex takeout before showering, running 10 miles, and stepping back into the forgiving arms of an arugula salad.

Or maybe, we have been all three. Self disciplined, weak, and somewhere in the middle. And whether our vice is food or something entirely different, we share in common that we’re human beings and not one of us is perfect.

So forgive yourself for the five cupcakes. They aren't worth eating if you're gonna feel mad about it. And as for the stupid thing that made you wanna eat the five cupcakes? Forgive yourself for that, too.


  1. In any weight loss endeavor, it's important to remember that the brain has two primary directives–pleasure seeking and survival. From childhood we have learned to associate food with both. Associated with pleasure are what most call good emotions–happiness, joy, elation and so on. Associated with survival are what most call bad emotions–frustration, boredom, confusion, anger, depression and so on.

    Unfortunately most programs to lose weight or deal with binging focus on food and forget the emotional programming.

    Focusing on what you do or do not eat to control or lose weight is like trying to fly by flapping your arms. Better to focus on the stress of the emotion whether it be frustration, happiness, upset, anger, joy and learn to take it straight rather than diluting with food.

    Yes, 95% of all diets and eating programs fail. Why? For a free report please go to

  2. Richard, I know you're using my blog to advertise, but I'm so happy to have a comment that you can go right ahead! I agree, the emotion behind eating is what ought to be considered and dealt with.

    On a lighter note, I do enjoy a little controlled chaos every once in a while. It makes the steamed broccoli that much more refreshing, and the cupcakes that much sweeter. I enjoy - as much of a pain in the butt it can be at times - being human.

    And on one more note - I once tried to be hypnotized, fully believing it would happen, and it didn't work! What did I do wrong??